Since the Mayans were wrong about the world ending, it allows me to continue posting! (lack of it really...) It's been quite the past month and a half. Reflecting back in the short 6 weeks so much has happened in my personal life, work life and professional life. (Not so much school since well, it's school, it's routine) Here are some of the things I've learned or taken away from my recent experiences:
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. It's almost impossible to be friends with your manager at work.
The reason I say this is because the hierarchy and different level of power - for a lack of a better word, makes it too difficult to be friends at work. I'm not saying you can't be friends at all. I'm just saying you can't be friends in the office. You can talk about personal issues with your manager IF it affects your work, if not go out during your own time to be friends. The biggest issue for me is that it creates a dysfunctional environment - not only for me but for the rest of the department. There's nothing worse than having a day long conversation with your manager then realizing at the end of the day you haven't finished any of the work that was supposed to be done then getting dinged on it the next day from your manager.
2.
If you want to be successful, YOU need to make it happen on your own.
This is a cliche, BUT it's true. Everyone can talk the talk, but can they walk the walk? If you say you're going to be this successful businessman or entrepreneur YOU'RE the one that has to push yourself to make it happen. I'm taking a professional selling class this semester (with an amazing prof, he's one of the most inspiring prof out there) and he can tell which students are going to ace his class and which ones are going to flunk. I've always wanted an internship for the longest time, but I never actively did anything to achieve it - until these past two weeks. I have the confidence that I'm more than capable of doing any internship in marketing or communications out there, my resume speaks volumes on it's own, but it can't speak volumes if no one sees it. I got an interview within 2 hours of applying to the position and was hired on the spot after they met me. I'm not trying to be cocky or arrogant in any way, but I'm trying to point out that because I made an effort to applying, something happened.
We all dream big things for ourselves, but the thing that sets the successful ones apart from the failures is the desire, ambition and willingness to put the effort into getting to our dreams.
3.
Heartbreak is inevitable.
This one sounds like a sad sob story, but it isn't! Have faith that if you're meant to be with this person, you'll find your way back to each other in the future. However, that does NOT mean you're waiting on this person. Move on, meet new people, create new experiences and work on yourself. Many people have a sixth sense when it comes to noticing people who are truly happy with where they are in life and who they are. You may have been in the best relationship or the worst, I've experienced both, but I don't regret either of them. I probably learned more from my shitty relationship than I did the amazing one. You're never losing anything regardless of how the relationship was, you're gaining experience, knowledge, and a better understanding of what YOU are looking for in someone you hope to spend the rest of your life with.
Ha, I can't believe in the 6 short weeks so much has happened. I owe a lot of my strength to overcome my fears and heartbreak to my amazing support system. Not many people can say this, the girls have been in my life for a long time, we went our separate ways after elementary school and are all over the place for university, but it doesn't change the fact that we'll drop everything if one of us is in need.
I apologize for my super long descriptions, I'm working on my writing to make it a bit more clear and concise, I'm going to need it for business anyways!
love always,
Cassandra
